The Parenting Style That Destroys Brain Development In Children (Video)

Parents, I’ve got good news and bad news. The good news is, you’re right – kids today really are brats. On the downside, it’s largely your fault. Experts say modern parenting styles are leaving kids with a whole host of health issues that account for much of our complaints about the current generation.

Here’s where parents have gone wrong, according to psychologists.

Not Enough Free Playtime

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According to Dr. Peter Gray, the amount of time kids spend playing freely has declined steadily in the past several decades. Kids today often compete with their parents for freedom.

“We may think we are protecting them,” says Dr. Gray. “In fact we are diminishing their joy, diminishing their sense of self-control, preventing them from discovering and exploring the endeavors they would most love, and increasing the odds that they will suffer from anxiety, depression and other disorders.”

As if the increase in adult control wasn’t damaging enough, it turns out many modern parents do a pretty lousy job once they have taken the reins.

Too Many Parenting Shortcuts

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Kids today average 44.5 hours in front of a screen weekly. But it’s not because they’re lazy. No, according to research, it’s largely because parents use screens to pacify their young kids.

Of course, handing little Sarah an iPhone is much easier than taking her for a walk. But, according to occupational therapist Angela Hanscom, that shortcut is quite damaging.

“More and more children are walking around with underdeveloped balance systems,” Angela writes. “In other words, they have decreased body awareness and sense of space.

Teachers are reporting that children are falling out of their seats in school, running into one another, pushing with more force during games of tag, and are generally clumsier than in years past.”

Less Direct Touch

Today, kids spend more time in strollers than ever beforeOnly 15% of infants remain breastfed by 12 months. Both of these facts have one thing in common; they indicate a general decline in direct parent-child physical contact.

You might be surprised at how important that is. Affectionate touch with a caregiver is absolutely crucial to healthy brain development. Without it, kids lack a coherent sense of self. And what does that lead to? Narcissism.

Want to learn more about the pitfalls of modern parenting? Have a look at the video below.

Of course, parents, you are free to raise your kids however you see best. But do let us know what you think of these points. Do you agree? Disagree?

This Is What Your Hair Length Reveals About Your Personality

While the length or style of your hair doesn’t define you, it does say a lot about your personality. Your hairstyle can give others a small glimpse into your likes, dislikes and and interests. Whether your hair is short, medium or long, you might relate to some of personality traits below. Whether you realize it or not, your hairstyle is sending subtle messages! Keep reading to find out what your hairstyle says about you!

1. Pixie Cut or Very Short Hair

Short hair or a pixie cut tells others that you are confident, social and flirty. You make new friends easily and you enjoy work that promotes intellectual thinking. You show integrity and self control, even during conflict. Every once in a while, your impulsive side gets the best of you and you act without thinking.

2. Bob or Above-the-Shoulder Hair

This hairstyle lets people know that you are straightforward. You always speak the truth, even when it isn’t easy. Unlike many others, you are able to find a balance between your personal life and your professional life. You can’t stand routine and you love to experience new things.

3. Lob or Shoulder-Length Cut

 

A lob or shoulder-length cut shows that you are feminine and sophisticated. Your natural beauty shines through to everyone who crosses your path. You enjoy being challenged and you’re a pro at making friends. You love to talk but you’re also a great listener, which helps you maintain your friendships.

4. Long or Super Long Hair

Long or super long hair shows others that you are careful and patient. You have big dreams and you aren’t afraid to let people know it. You enjoy being in long-term relationships where you can give your all, but you are selective when it comes to a partner. Your perseverance and drive helps you fight for your dreams and achieve your goals.

 

15 Signs You Have a Sense of Entitlement Complex

The definition of entitlement is: the feeling or belief that you deserve to be given something (such as special privileges). A sense of entitlement complex is linked with narcissism and borderline personality disorder.

“Hell hath no fury like a narcissist denied,” says Sandy Hotchkiss, author of Why Is It Always About You?” In her book, Hotchkiss explains that a sense of entitlement actually has nothing to do with real self-worth. Instead, a person with entitlement complex is similar to a small child who never learned that he or she is not the center of the universe. They throw tantrums when outsiders don’t meet their demands.

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So how do you know if you have a sense of entitlement? Here are 16 signs:

1. You impose unrealistic demands onto your family, friends, lovers, employees and others.

2. You tend to feel sorry for yourself if things don’t work out the way you want them to, and you advertise it openly, in melodramatic ways to get attention.

3. You have been called a bully, manipulative, ruthless, egotistical, vain or a liar.

4. You believe that you deserve happiness and success, and you go to great or extreme lengths to get it, often at the expense of others.

5. You punish people when they don’t do what you want, either by gossiping, spreading rumors, giving them the silent treatment, or shouting and being verbally abusive.

6. You tend to see other people as competition or a threat.

7. You exhibit many double-standards in your behavior and interactions with others. For example, it’s OK for you to be late or forget something, but it’s absolutely not OK for someone else to do the same.

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8. You tend to take more in friendships and relationships while the other person gives.

9. You look out for yourself first. Your needs and desires are more important than anyone else’s most of the time.

10. You have a hard time negotiating or compromising in a situation.

11. You believe that you are a priority and you should always come first, even at the expense of others.

12. People often seem to be offended or upset by what you say.

13. Generally, you think that you are better or more important than other people, and that other people should see this as well and respect you.

14. You want to be admired and adored.

15. You find it second nature to assert your dominance or superiority over others, and you enjoy doing it.

If you do identify with these signs, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re a full-blown narcissist or have borderline personality disorder. It does mean however, that you most likely exhibit a level of selfishness that makes other people’s lives harder. A narcissistic mindset is often the result of failure to learn as a child that you are not the center of everything, and other people do not exist to serve your needs and wants.

We all suffer from personality flaws in one way or another. But if you tend to show a sense of entitlement, there are ways to work through it to improve yourself and your relationships with those around you. Developing self-awareness may be the first step.

9 Signs You’ve Found The Perfect Spouse

How do you know when you’ve found “the one?” Being in love with someone doesn’t necessarily mean they’d make the best life partner. There are certain signs that can give you a glimpse into married life and help you recognize when you’ve found an ideal spouse.

Here are nine signs you’ve found the perfect spouse:

1. He Is Always Supportive

Everyone makes mistakes. If your partner is willing to stand by you no matter what, you’ve found a keeper. Even if you’re wrong, he should be able to show support instead of blame. If he’s the one, he won’t criticize you or kick you when you’re down. He’ll know that showing love and support is important, especially during tough times.

2. He Pays Attention To Detail

If your guy pays attention to detail, it means he really, truly cares. While he might not remember what you were wearing the day you two met, he might know your favorite color, your go-to comfort food or your favorite type of flowers. If he takes note of the things that matter to you, he might be the one.

3. He Can Make Dinner On His Own

This might not sound like a big deal, but you aren’t going to want to make dinner every single night. Your guy doesn’t have to be a master chef, but being able to throw a few things together and make dinner on his own will come in handy. Especially when you’ve had a long day!

4. He Is Wise

While having a partner with a high IQ might come in handy if you’re trying to understand your physics homework, a partner who is wise might be more important. If your man is able to give you good advice when you need it and keep a clear head when unexpected problems arise, he’s someone you’ll want to keep around.

5. He Knows How To Cheer You Up

Your ideal husband should know how to cheer you up when you’re feeling down. Whether he makes funny jokes, throws your favorite movie in or sets up a bubble bath for you, he should be able to comfort you when you need it the most.

6. He Knows How To Compromise

Marriage requires a lot of compromise, much like relationships in general. If you pick the movie, your partner gets to pick where you eat dinner. A man who knows how to compromise without complaining or getting upset might just be the one. It’s a sign that your relationship will be a healthy amount of give and take.

7. He Helps Out Around The House

Gone are the days where a woman’s work is in the kitchen and a man’s work is outside. If your partner truly appreciates and respects you, he’ll never make you feel like you’re his personal maid. If you ask him to help out around the house and does it without complaining, he’s husband material.

8. Your Opinion Matters To Him

Your partner shouldn’t be the one making all of the decisions. If your guy is an ideal husband, he’ll value your opinion. He’ll respect you enough to sit down with you and discuss big decisions and he’ll even ask your opinion about little things. He should view you as a friend and an adviser.

9. He Doesn’t Run From His Problems

A man who runs from his problems can’t be trusted to be in a committed, healthy relationship. If you’re looking for a spouse, make sure your partner is strong enough to face his problems head on. If the two of you have a disagreement, he should want to sit down and talk it out instead of walking out the door.

9 Things You Should NEVER Say To Your Daughter

Being a parent is arguably the hardest job in the world. It’s filled with twists and turns, ups and downs and many uncertainties. If you’re raising a daughter, it’s important to know that she was born with a slight disadvantage in this world, just because of her gender. There are certain things you should never say to your daughter at any age. It may not feel like it at times, but she is listening. She is learning from you and looking up to you. She takes your words to heart.

Here are 9 things you should never say to your daughter:

1. “Stop Crying”

Everyone is entitled to their emotions. If you tell your daughter to stop crying, you’re telling her that she’s being weak by shedding tears. You’re also telling her that her feelings are not valid. If your daughter is crying, try finding out why. Talk through the issue with her, no matter how small it may be.

2. “Don’t Do That, You’ll Scare The Boys Away”

It’s important that you never tell your daughter to shy away from something just because she might lose the approval of the boys in her class. Never imply to her that the opinion of her male peers matters more than her opinion of herself. Let her do what she loves, even if it’s typically a “male” sport or activity.

3. “You’re Doing It Wrong, Let Me Do That”

It can be tempting to reach over and tie your daughter’s shoes when she’s taking too long. But you need to let her try and fail, until she succeeds. Doing everything for her won’t teach her to be proactive and independent. Give her time to learn on her own.

4. “Have You Gained Weight?

No girl, regardless of her age, should ever feel like she is being judged by her weight. Comments like this can hurt, especially at a young age. They can stay with someone for years to come. The best way to ensure that your daughter is healthy is to teach her about and encourage a healthy lifestyle. Being healthy isn’t about a number on the scale.

5. “That’s Not For Girls”

Never discourage your daughter from participating in an activity that has historically been for boys, and don’t discourage her from entering a male-dominated field. If she wants to study engineering, cheer her on. If she wants to take karate or boxing classes, sign her up. Supporting her will help her break barriers later on in life. Be proud that she knows who she is and who she wants to be.

6. “You’re So Lazy!”

There’s often an underlying reason as to why children aren’t able to accomplish what’s being asked of them. Attacking your daughter’s self-esteem and self-worth won’t do any good. Being called lazy doesn’t lead to motivation. Sit down with your daughter instead and figure out what’s going on.

7. “You’re Being Ridiculous”

If your daughter is worried or upset about something, do not tell her she’s being ridiculous. When you dismiss her feelings, you’re telling her that the way she’s feeling isn’t valid. Listen to what she’s saying and help her work through tough times.

8. “Stop Being So Needy”

Saying this to your daughter will strain your relationship. She’ll think she can’t come to you anymore when she is hurting or needs help. It can also destroy her self-esteem and make her question her emotions. As a parent, your job is to be there for your children. If your daughter is reaching out for you, take the time to listen.

9. “Why Can’t You Be Like Your Brother/Sister?”

Never compare your daughter to someone else. Every girl should strive to be her best self. She should feel comfortable being genuine and unique. The only way she’ll grow up to be comfortable in her own skin is if she makes her own goals and decisions, and develops her personality on her own.

4 Reasons Why You Should Stop Showering Every Day

Are you a type of person that showers every day?
According to the health experts, many people don’t even know why showering often is actually bad for skin.
Yes, it’s amazing to smell good and have shiny hair, but this goal can be reached without a need of showering every day.
Below you can find some reasons why you should stop showering each day.

Why You Need To Stop Showering Every Day?

1. YOU’RE NOT AS DIRTY AS YOU THINK

If you don’t work out every day or have a physically demanding job where you sweat for hours on end, then you definitely don’t need a daily bath or shower. According to Dr. Casey Carlos, assistant professor of medicine in the division of dermatology at the University of California San Diego School of Medicine, in an article on today.com, many soaps dry out the skin because they strip valuable oils from it. Plus, most people use soap where they don’t really need it. Carlos says that the skin actually does a great job at cleaning itself, which means we definitely don’t need to wash up as much as we thought.

If you think about it, back when we lived in nature, we really just washed off in a river or creek, without using any soaps or harsh cleaners. So, why do we think our bodies need these products today?

2. IT WASHES AWAY GOOD BACTERIA

In an interview with BuzzFeed, two dermatologists revealed that washing your skin every day literally washes away good bacteria essential to our health. Plus, frequent showers can create small cracks in the skin, opening up your body to infection (especially with lower amounts of that good bacteria we all need).

3. YOU’RE DRYING OUT YOUR SKIN

Taking frequent hot showers can dry out the skin, leading it to peel or flake. If you haven’t caught on yet, washing our bodies so often, no matter what part of it, leeches moisture and oils from the skin which dries it out. WebMD recommends taking no longer than 10 minute showers if you do shower each day, and to put the water on cold so you don’t dry your skin out.

4. YOU’RE WASTING WATER

According to the U.S. Environmental Protection Agency, the average family of four uses about 400 gallons of water per day! If everyone in the family showers every single day, a lot of that water usage goes toward showers, since a 10 minute shower uses a whopping 60 liters of water. You might think taking a bath will conserve more water since you don’t have it constantly running, but baths use almost three times more water than showers, according to Stanford University.

 

Researchers Find Common Vitamin That Could Reverse Sleep Disorders

Researchers have discovered that a simple vitamin deficiency could be preventing you from getting the sleep you deserve…

There are several natural remedies for sleep deprivation and one of the latest discoveries by scientists is pointing to a new cause behind those sleepless nights. People will do anything to fall asleep and stay asleep longer since sleep is such an important part of remaining happy and healthy. There are even points on your wrist which you can press to reduce your anxiety and get you to sleep faster. However, the latest sleep remedy is something even simpler than all of that – a simple Vitamin D supplement could help you get the sleep you need.

 

Vitamin D is something many of us are lacking. It turns out, according to research, that a lack of Vitamin D can cause us to be unable to sleep. Researchers reported on an Iranian study where scientists found that the use of Vitman D supplements improved the quality of sleep in the 44 subjects who were given Vitamin D compared to the placebo.

Having a Vitamin D deficiency can be a serious problem for your body. There are even six serious diseases caused by a Vitamin D deficiency. Everyone should pay attention to their Vitamin D levels because they can have serious implications to your health. There are five common signs of Vitamin D deficiency that are major warning signs you should get on a supplement immediately.

Nearly 50 percent of people don’t get enough Vitamin D. A study from 2015 of 3,000 men which found that those men with Vitamin D deficiencies were also suffering from poor sleep. Is it possible that your sleepless nights are caused by a deficiency in Vitamin D? If you don’t want to take supplements there are a few good ways to get Vitamin D without having to take any pills. Exposure to the sun and Vitamin D fortified milk and orange juice can also help with a slight Vitamin D deficiency.

This has been common knowledge for a long time!

6 Things Everyone Deserves In A Relationship

You might settle for a dry sandwich, even though you asked for mayo. You might settle for a nice, affordable car, even though you’ve been dreaming of a Lamborghini. Throughout your life, you’re bound to settle for a few things here and there. But your relationship shouldn’t be one of them. It’s important to know what you deserve, and to have the guts to walk away when you need to.

Here are six things everyone deserves in a relationship:

1. Mutual Trust And Respect

A healthy relationship requires mutual trust and respect. If your partner has a habit of ignoring your thoughts and opinions, poking fun at your dreams and goals or going through your phone when you’re not looking, it’s time to move on. Respect yourself enough to find someone who respects you, trusts you and treats you the way you should be treated.

2. Happiness

You deserve to be happy! Too often we get stuck in monotonous relationships that are at a stand-still. We go through the motions day in and day out, and nothing changes. Don’t waste time in an unhappy relationship. Find someone who makes you laugh, lifts you up and brings you joy.

3. Safety And Security

You deserve to feel safe when you’re with your partner. When the two of you are together, you should feel comfortable enough to be vulnerable and to be the real you. You deserve to be with someone who comforts you, protects you and accepts you for who you are.

4. Passion

If you don’t feel passion in your relationship, your partner might as well be an acquaintance. You deserve romance and intimacy in your relationship. If the two of you have lost your spark, try to reignite it. If the passion is gone, be willing to move on. You deserve to share a close, passionate and intimate bond with your partner.

5. Adventure

Whether your idea of adventure is white water rafting in the rapids or choosing a scary movie on date night, you deserve a little adventure in your life and in your relationship! You deserve a relationship full of surprises, new experiences and memorable moments.

6. Unconditional Love

You deserve someone who loves you and accepts you for who you are. Someone who embraces your quirks, celebrates your successes and stands by your side no matter what. You deserve a love that knows no boundaries, a love that gets stronger with each passing day. An unconditional type of love.

10 Signs You Are Highly Sensitive To The Energy Around You

An empath is highly sensitive to the feelings, intentions and motivations of others. They feel the energy of other people on a deep level that many don’t understand. Someone who is empathetic may sympathize with how someone else is feeling, but being an empath is deeper than that. An empath feels the emotions of others whether they want to or not. It’s something they have no control over. Here are 10 signs that you may be highly sensitive to the energy of others.

1. You Overthink

You may often find yourself completely convinced that there’s something deeper going on that can’t be seen. This is because you’re picking up on the motivations, intentions and feelings of others that most people aren’t as sensitive to.

2. You Constantly Feel Tired

You’re most likely worn out from all of the emotions you experience on a daily basis. Experiencing the feelings of others on top of your own is often extremely draining.

3. You’re a Peacemaker

You’re a natural peacemaker and you often end up making a compromise with your own needs or feelings to keep others happy. You force yourself to keep your personal feelings inside to focus instead on the happiness of others.

4. You Have Mixed Emotions

You may be highly sensitive on the inside, but distant and reserved on the outside. You crave intimacy with others, but you rarely ever allow yourself to get close to someone.

5. You’re a Problem-Solver

When you identify a problem, you’re looking for a solution almost immediately. You hate to see others in pain or turmoil. You feel the need to figure out a way to change or fix the problem to make everyone happy.

6. You’re Creative

You are attracted to creative outlets in many forms. Whether it’s writing, painting, music or dancing, you crave a way to express your emotions. Being creative allows you to let go of some of the emotions that are weighing you down and it gives you a chance to relax and feel free, even for a short time.

7. You Experience Deja Vu

You experience strange coincidences more than the average person and you often get the feeling of deja vu. This happens because you are sensitive to your surroundings and often notice things that others wouldn’t.

8. You’re Not Close to Many People

Even if you have a large family or a big group of acquaintances, you are only truly close to a handful of people, if that. You want to be closer to others, but handling the problems and emotions of too many people can become extremely overwhelming, so you stick to a chosen few that understand you.

9. You Feel At Home in Nature

Being outdoors makes you feel at peace. The sunlight, the tall grass, the deep woods and the sounds of nature relax your mind and nurture your spirit.

10. You’re Constantly Searching for Answers

You find yourself always looking for a deeper meaning. You constantly search for ways to improve yourself or to learn something new. You crave a thorough understanding of many differnt subjects due to your inner drive for personal growth.

 

 

61-year-old isn’t ashamed of her age, becomes a stunning swimsuit model

Advertisements often boast sexy young women to market their product, but the truth is, all humans at any age and any size are beautiful. Society can often forget the stunning beauty of older women in particular, and one model is looking to change the way people see older women.

Yazemeenah Rossi is a 61-year-old model who is the new face of a swimsuit line that is a collaborative work between online shop The Dreslyn and a lingerie house called Land of Women. With a major focus on eliminating hyper-sexuality in swimwear advertisements, they looked to Rossi because of her grace and elegance.

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On the choice to cast Rossi, Brooke Taylor Corcia, founder of Dreslyn told Huffington Post that “this is a woman who radiates health and vitality. She’s confident, she’s a visual artist, she takes care of herself. [This line is] all about being a person who’s well-lived and well-traveled and has intelligence and confidence, and letting that shine through.”

The stunning Malibu-based model was born in France and raise in Corsica, and claims that her health is owed to her eating habits and beauty regimen.

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“There is no big secret,” she told the Sunday Times. “All I have ever done is eat organic food – long before it became trendy.”

She continues to note that she also uses oil for her skin and puts rapeseed oil in her hair. She also uses a sugar scrub that blends sugar with olive oil and eats avocado every day, along with organic meat and fish.

Her healthy eating habits are an inspiration for all that re looking to be healthy as they age, and the beautiful model proves that age is nothing but a number! Young or old, we can all learn an important message in this campaign- everyone is beautiful.

6 THINGS YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TO DO IN A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

Romantic relationships mean different things to different people. On the one hand, they can be one of the most satisfying and fulfilling endeavours we ever undertake, while on the other hand, they can leave you feeling completely depleted and heart broken.

There are some things that are important to remember if you’re looking to have a spiritually satisfying relationship:

Nourish Your Spirit—Don’t Starve It

Although the spirit is not something that can be broken, there are certain experiences that can make you feel as though you are broken and depleted. There are also certain partners that can uplift, empower, and inspire you. When you choose a partner that creates chaos and drama in your life, you are choosing to allow that partner to be the focal point of your day.

If you’ve ever been in a toxic relationship, you know that it takes a lot of time and energy to maintain. In some cases, it takes a lot more energy from you than it gives. So, it’s important to recognize that when you have a toxic partner (or friend) in part of your life, you are agreeing to spend a great amount of time and energy on that person — and the challenges that come with them — rather than on yourself.

When you have a partner that uplifts and supports you and challenges you to grow, your relationship becomes about self-betterment instead of self-depletion.

Own Your Happiness

One of the most common relationship traps that I’ve found myself in on multiple occasions is to expect your partner to make you happy — or anyone else. We put a ton of pressure on the people in our lives when we do this and it’s simply unreasonable.

No one is “supposed” to make you happy. You are.

Make time to do the things you love. Make time to spend with those you love. Choose the career that fits you because people rarely say, “Stop making me happy, make yourself happy instead.” It takes someone who already owns their happiness to say something like that and mean it.

Let Your Partner Be

Osho said, “If you love a flower, don’t pick it up because if you pick it up, it dies and it ceases to be what you love. So if you love a flower, let it be. Love is not about possession. Love is about appreciation.”

I love this quote because it presents an entirely different view of love. So many of us fall in love with our partners and then spend the relationship trying to change them into what we think they should be. If we maintain a stance of appreciation instead of possession then we release the responsibility of changing them. We allow them to be who they are and we give ourselves the opportunity to sit back and learn from what they have to teach us.

Enjoy The Journey

Relationships take us places. We learn from each other, get married, have kids, grow old, have new experiences and so on. But that’s the highlight reel. Relationships aren’t only about the moments that we like to share on Facebook. There are dark moments in every partnership. There are highs and lows, just like life. When we are consistently looking for the “big moments” we miss out on all of the beautiful times in between. We forget to appreciate the challenges that helped us grow into the people we are today. It’s important to remember to appreciate the journey every moment we can.

Be Vulnerable

Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. After a few rough relationships, I went through a period where I retreated so far deeply away from everyone but a select few people that I trusted. I built up so much emotional baggage and I hid behind it all. Hiding behind our barriers give us the false impression of safety. In truth, there is no way to avoid pain. Even when you prevent yourself from making new, healthy relationships, you’re depriving yourself of growth, learning, and moving forward, and that’s painful too.

Danielle Fagan Book (300 x 250)After years of denying myself new relationships I realized that the pain was never the problem, it was the fear of having the same experience that was the problem. Humans are interesting creatures. We get hurt and our ego tries to keep us from repeating that same action because we believe that it will happen again in the same way.

This mechanism can be useful. For example, we usually only need to touch a hot stove once to know that it hurts, so then we don’t do it again. In the case of a painful relationship, the solution isn’t to avoid relationships altogether but to determine our feelings and deal with them appropriately. When we hide from our feelings and new experiences, we prevent ourselves from learning from them, and we often repeat the same experience. In spiritual terms, hiding from our emotions would block the heart center (or heart chakra).

If you have a blocked heart chakra, days can feel emotionally very heavy, relationships can be difficult to maintain, and it can be difficult to connect to others or be vulnerable at all. It can also make it difficult to go into social situations and meet new people. If you feel like this is the case for you, try out the mediation below; it’s specifically designed for unblocking the heart chakra of “heaviness” and opening it to new, positive experiences:

Be You

New relationships are exciting. So exciting that we can get lost in them.

There are some things that cannot be compromised.  Always be aware of your own wants and needs in addition to your partner’s.

The key to harmony is a union of two complete, independent souls walking alongside each other.

 

All relationships are different but these are a few of the ingredients that I’ve found I cannot go without in any relationship. I hope that you’ve found them useful and if you have any to share, feel free to post them in the comments below.

Do you ever feel like you’re looking everywhere for the answers?

Do you feel anxious and uncertain when you think about what you’re meant to do in this world?

8 Simple Yoga Poses That Flush Stress Hormones From the Body!

Stress often creeps into our lives, even when we’re trying our hardest to keep it out. Balancing work, bills, family members, friends, romantic relationships and obligations can be difficult, and at times it can become overwhelming. Constant stress can affect your mood, thoughts, work performance, emotions and relationships, and you may not even realize it’s happening

When you encounter a perceived threat, a tiny region at the base of your brain — the hypothalamus — sets off an alarm system in your body. Through the combination of nerve and hormonal signals, the adrenal grands are prompted to release a surge of hormones, including adrenaline and cortisol. Cortisol, the primary stress hormone, attempts to aid the body by suppressing the digestive system, the reproductive system and the growth process — functions that wouldn’t be needed in a fight or flight situation.

The body’s stress response usually returns to normal when the perceived threat has passed and you allow yourself to calm, but when stressors are constantly present, that fight or flight reaction remains. The overexposure to cortisol and other stress hormones can disrupt almost all of the body’s processes, putting you at risk for numerous health problems including anxiety, depression, digestive problems, headaches, heart disease, sleep problems, weight gain, and concentration impairment.

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Finding your own way to unwind and de-stress is the key to keeping negative energy out of your life. Many people have found solace in yoga, using its relaxation techniques to calm their minds and find their balance. Try these eight easy yoga poses to help flush stress hormones from your body.

1. Child’s Posechilds pose

  1. Kneel on a yoga mat with your legs together, sitting back on your heels.
  2. Hinge forward until your chest rests on your thighs and your forehead is on the floor.
  3. Curl your shoulders forward and let your hands rest with your palms up, next to your feet.
  4. Hold for five breaths.

This pose calms by allowing the resting posture to quiet the mind and ease stress. Child’s pose benefits the nervous system and lymphatic system.

2. Bridge Pose

 

  1. Lie on your back, bend your knees and place your feet flat on the floor, hip width apart.
  2. Slide your arms alongside your body with your palms facing down.
  3. Press your feet into the floor; inhale; lift hips while rolling your spine off of the floor.
  4. Press your arms and shoulders down to lift your chest and engage your legs to lift the hips higher.
  5. Hold for 4-8 breaths, then release on an exhale, slowly rolling your spine back to the floor.

This pose calms by providing gentle stretching of the back and legs. Bridge Pose reduces anxiety, fatigue, backaches, headaches and insomnia.

3. Standing Forward Bendstanding forward bend

  1. From a standing position, exhale forward and bend your knees enough to bring your palms flat to the floor with your head pressed against your legs.
  2. Feel your spine stretch in opposite directions; your head is pulled down and in.
  3. Press your hips up and straighten the legs for a deeper stretch.
  4. Hold for 4-8 breaths, then bend the knees, inhale and lift back into standing position.

This pose calms by stretching the hamstrings, thighs and hips. Standing forward bend is thought to relieve stress, fatigue and mild depression.

4. Legs-Up-The-Wall Pose

  1. Sit with your hips against the wall and roll onto your back, taking your legs up the wall.
  2. Your bottom should be pressed as close to the wall as possible.
  3. Hold for 5 minutes.

This pose calms by reducing stress and renewing blood and lymph drainage back into the heart area.

5. Cat Posecat pose

  1. Begin on all fours, exhale and draw your belly to your spine.
  2. Round your back toward the ceiling.
  3. Lower the crown of your head toward the floor, don’t force your chin to your chest.

This pose calms by soothing and stretching the lower back, relieving stress and massaging the spine.

6. Eagle Pose

 

  1. Begin standing; bend your knees and balance on your right foot.
  2. Cross your left thigh over the right thigh, then hook the top of your left foot behind your right calf.
  3. Balance for one breath, then extend your arms straight in front of your body and drop your left arm under your right arm.
  4. Bend your elbows and wrap your arms and hands, pressing your palms together.
  5. Square your hips and chest to the wall and draw your belly in and up.
  6. Hold for up to 1 minute, then gently unwind your arms and legs and repeat on the opposite side.

This pose calms by warding off stress through improved focus and balance. Eagle pose is an empowerment pose that releases tension in the shoulders, legs and back.

7. Head-to-Knee Forward Bendforward bend

  1. Begin seated with your legs extended, then bend your left leg, bringing the sole of your foot to the upper inside of your right thigh.
  2. Place both hands on either side of the right leg and inhale, turning toward the extended leg.
  3. Exhale and fold forward; hold for 5 breaths then repeat on the opposite side.

This pose calms by relaxing the mind to relieve anxiety, fatigue, headaches, depression and insomnia.

8. Extended Triangle Pose

  1. Start in a standing position. Exhale, spread your legs 4 feet from each other and lift and hold your arms out at your sides with palms facing down.
  2. Turn your right foot out at a 90-degree angle; turn your left foot in toward the right.
  3. Tighten your thigh muscles and turn your right thigh outward, then bend the body from the hips toward the right leg.
  4. Twist your body to the left, keeping both sides long, then push your left hip slightly forward.
  5. Keep your right hand on your ankles, while stretching your left arm up toward the sky.
  6. Keep your head straight or turned slightly to the left; hold this position for 30 seconds.

This pose calms by stretching the entire body to relieve stress, improve digestion and lessen the symptoms of anxiety.

This Cab Driver Had An Odd Request For His Passenger, But He Never Expected This.

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A cab driver picks up a Nun. She gets into the cab, and notices that the VERY handsome cab driver won’t stop staring at her.

She asks him why he is staring. He replies: ‘I have a question to ask, but I don’t want to offend you.’

She answers, ‘ My son, you cannot offend me. When you’re as old as I am and have been a nun as long as I have, you get a chance to see and hear just about everything. I’m sure that there’s nothing you could say or ask that I would find offensive.’

‘Well, I’ve always had a fantasy to have a nun kiss me.’

She responds, ‘Well, let’s see what we can do about that: #1, you have to be single and #2, you must be Catholic.’

The cab driver is very excited and says, ‘Yes, I’m single and Catholic!’

‘OK’ the nun says. ‘Pull into the next alley.’

The nun fulfills his fantasy with a kiss that would make a hooker blush.

But when they get back on the road, the cab driver starts crying.

‘My dear child,’ said the nun, ‘Why are you crying?’

‘Forgive me but I’ve sinned. I lied and I must confess; I’m married and I’m Jewish.’

The nun says, ‘That’s OK. My name is Kevin and I’m going to a costume party.’

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Doing These 10 Moves Before Bedtime Can Change The Way You Sleep

Yoga is a discipline that people of all ages and body types can enjoy. But to some, yoga can be a little physically challenging — not to mention intimidating.

However, you don’t need to be a human rubber band to enjoy the many benefits of yoga — like meditation, which can help lower blood pressure, relieve stress, and improve memory.

In an exclusive guide below, we go through 10 simple yoga poses that you can do right on your bed!

These “bedtime yoga” positions are the perfect nighttime routine, as they can ease stiff muscles and stressed minds.

Jessica Matthews, assistant professor of exercise science at Miramar College in San Diego, suggests finding the right type of stretches before you dive in. “One of the most important things is taking great care to understand what your body needs,” she said.

So, although these stretches are relatively gentle, it’s important to speak first to your doctor before starting a new exercise regimen.

Scroll down to check out these easy bedtime yoga poses, and let us know what you think in the comments below!

Pose #1: Mindful Meditation

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This pose is ideal for those who want to spend a few minutes in quiet reflection before hitting the hay.

Start by sitting in a comfortable, cross-legged pose on your bed. Sit up to lengthen your spine, relax your arms, and take three deep breaths.

Try your best to clear your mind and focus on your deep breathing — though it might take time to quiet your mind.

Pose #2: Forward Bend

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The forward bend is great if you want to get in one last comprehensive stretch before bed.

Sit up on your bed and slowly fold your body forward, then gently reach your fingertips toward your toes.

If you can’t reach your feet, stretch for your ankles, shins, or thighs — whatever is the most comfortable.

Focus on exhaling, as it will help you deepen your stretch.

Pose #3: Child’s Pose

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Kneel on your bed, with your toes together behind you, then spread your knees hip-width apart.

Slowly, lean down until your lying down between your thighs.

Stay there for as long as you feel comfortable, taking deep and focused breaths.

Pose #4: Winding Down Twist

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This pose really does wonders to stretch your spine and upper body.

Start by sitting cross-legged on your bed, and put your right hand on your left knee.

Put your left hand on the bed behind you, and gently twist your body to the left. Twist your head so you’re gazing across your left shoulder.

Breathe deeply, then slowly return to the center. Repeat the twist with the other side of your body.

Pose #5: Reclining Goddess

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This pose is one of the most relaxing poses on this list — because you’ll be lying completely flat on your bed!

Start by lying down on your back, and bend your knees. Press the soles of your feet together, and just let your legs hang on either side of you.

Simply let your arms fall to your side. If you start to feel cramping or any strain on your lower body, place a pillow or two underneath each knee, to elevate the legs.

Pose #6: Legs On The Wall

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This is an especially meditative posture.

“Doing this inversion will ease tension in your legs,” said Vyda Bielkus, a yoga instructor and cofounder of Boston’s Health Yoga Life. “People who have a hard time meditating may find this an easier way to clear their minds,” he told the Huffington Post.

Sit on your bed facing the wall. Lie back, and extend your legs up onto the wall.

Let your arms rest by your sides, with the palms facing up. Breathe gently, and feel the stretch in the back of your legs.

Pose #7: Rock-A-Bye Roll

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This is a calming pose, but a pretty physically stimulating one as well. It’s similar to the popular “happy baby pose,” in that both legs are up in the air and angled toward you.

Lie on your back and hug your knees inward to your chest.

Cross your ankles together and wrap your arms around the shins. Rock your body forward to sit up, then roll back, exhaling as you do so.

“Find a still point in your body and focus on driving the rail bone down,” said instructor Bielkus. “This will elongate the lower back and allow the hips to stretch.”

Pose #8: Pigeon Pose

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This pose is one of the more physically intense ones (as far as bedtime yoga stretches go), but it does absolute wonders for tired legs.

Start on all fours, keeping your hands shoulders-width apart.

Bring your left knee forward, between your hands, and stretch your right leg behind you on the bed. Exhale, and fold your body forward over your left knee.

Stay there for as long as you feel comfortable. Do this for a couple of minutes if possible, then switch to the other side.

Pose #9: Easy Supine Twist

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This stretch is perfect to do in the mornings, right before you hop out of bed and get ready for the rest of your day.

Lie on your back and hug your knees gently to your chest. Hold your legs behind the knees with your left arm, and bring your knees down to the bed on your left side.

Let your head follow, and look to your left. Stay here for a little while, then repeat on your other side.

Pose #10: Fish Pose

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This stretch may be a little intense at first, especially to those who may have sore backs. But it’s definitely an interesting one!

Lie flat on your back, and scoot your hands underneath the hips. Then, lift your chest slowly, and slowly stretch your head backward.

Stay like this for a little while, then come back down, and repeat.

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11 Reasons Why You Should A Banana A Day

How many times a week do you eat a banana?
According to health experts, you should eat a banana every day in order to stay healthy.
Banana contains minerals, vitamins, potassium, magnesium, fiber and many other necessary substances for your body.
Below you can find some reasons why banana is a must to consume on daily basis.

Why You Need To Eat A Banana Everyday?

  1. Bananas help with depression. Someone with depression usually has a chemical imbalance of serotonin in the brain. Containing a high level of tryptophan, which is converted into serotonin, bananas can help alleviate symptoms of depression.
  2. They boost your energy. Bananas contain three natural sugars – fructose, glucose and sucrose, and are a good dose of fiber. This potent combination provides an instant and sustained boost of energy. Just two bananas provide enough energy for a 90-minute workout!
  3. They’re a great brain food. Bananas release energy slowly, which helps the brain stay alert for a longer period of time. The high potassium levels keep us more alert and the magnesium helps the brain to focus.
  4. They boost libido. Containing a high level of potassium and B6 vitamins, bananas are a good source of nutrients necessary for hormone production.
  5. They’re good for your blood. Containing a good amount of iron, bananas are great in keeping the blood healthy and lowing the risk of anemia. Containing high levels of B-6, bananas also aid with the production of white blood cells.
  6. They’re good for your bones. The nutrients in bananas helps build and sustain strong bones by increasing calcium absorption.
  7. They protect against illness. Bananas contain a high level of antioxidants, providing cell protection against free radicals that cause illnesses such as heart disease, diabetes, cancer, and muscular and tissue degeneration.
  8. They help with hangovers. By containing high levels of electrolytes, bananas are good food choice for somebody that had one-too-many. They’re great for regulating electrolyte levels and getting the body back to a healthy state.
  9. They improve your memory. Technically, this should have been filed under #4, but since so many people are worried about their memory it deserves its own number. Yes, bananas can help improve and sustain memory because of high levels of tryptophan, potassium and magnesium.
  10. They promote heart health. Not really a surprise here, given the banana’s high levels of nutrients and vitamins. Increasing potassium intake and decreasing the intake of sodium is probably the most important thing someone can do to protect their heart, and the banana is a high-potassium, low-sodium food. The fiber, vitamin C and B6 ingredients in the banana also promotes health and reduces the risk of cardiovascular disease.
  11. They reduce the risk of asthma. Imperial College of London conducted a study in which researchers found that children who ate at least one banana a day had a 34% less chance of developing asthma.

5 Things You Never Knew About The Power Of Touch

“When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives means the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen to rather share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand.” – Henri Nouwen

Do any of us sit around and contemplate our sense of touch? Well, that’s probably a “no”. But when we think about it, our sense of touch truly is a gift. Those of us with families and close friends understand the satisfaction that comes from our ability to hug, kiss and embrace our loved ones – a gift derived from our ability to touch.

There are also some very interesting factoids about this sense that stimulate newfound appreciation for a powerful human trait we think little about. An underlying commonality that these items share is that touch is an intricate and inseparable part of who we are as human beings.

HERE ARE 5 LITTLE-KNOWN FACTS ABOUT OUR SENSE OF TOUCH:

1. TOUCH IS LITERALLY AFFECTED BY EMOTION

It’s quite clear that our perception of touch can be affected by the social context of the interaction. We’re much more likely to interpret the interaction positively if it is initiated under positive pretenses. For example, a loving mother’s arm around one’s shoulders creates different emotions than that of a boss we don’t particularly care for. This much is obvious.

What’s not so obvious is that it actually feels different from a purely physical aspect. Dr. David Linden, author of Touch: The Science of Hand, Heart and Mind, puts it this way:

“It’s not just that the context is different – it will actually feel different. The reason is because these emotional touch brain areas are getting information about the social context from other parts of the brain.”

2. TOUCH INVOLVES THE PROCESSING OF TWO DIFFERENT BRAIN PATHWAYS

The human brain uses two different pathways to process the sense of touch, one is sensory and the other is emotional. The sensory pathway provides the physical interpretation of touch – texture, location, pressure, vibration, etc. The emotional pathway processes the psychological components of touch for our interpretation.

Aside from interpersonal encounters, the majority of sensations created through touch are emotionally-neutral. Thus, we utilize the sensory pathway – the somatosensory cortex – disproportionately in relation to the emotional pathway.

3. TOUCH IS THE FIRST SENSE WE DEVELOP

Incredibly, human beings begin to develop the sense of touch just three weeks after conception. At eight weeks, the embryo begins to interpret touch and react to its stimulation.

Skin sensitivity quickly extends to other areas of the body, as well. The genital areas sensitize by 10 weeks, the palms by 11 weeks, soles of the feet by 12 weeks, abdomen and buttocks by 17 weeks, and the entire body, with the exception of the head, by 32 weeks.

In a study done at Durham University, 4-D images reveal that the ability to anticipate touch begins in the womb. For the first time, scientists understand that fetuses can predict their own hand movements in the later stages of pregnancy. This breakthrough was discovered in images that displayed the fetus opening its mouth before bringing up its hand.

4. TOUCH IMPACTS OUR LIVES IN UNEXPECTED WAYS

The impact that touch has on our personal lives and the world around us are various, and certainly unexpected. Consider some of these now-known facts about the effects of touch:

–  Scratching is “contagious” because of our disease-fighting instincts.

– “Fist-bumping” between athletes can directly affect the outcome of a competition.

– Our brains prefer the subtle pain of scratching over an itching sensation.

– The nature of physical interaction during an interview can increase the odds of being hired.

5. TOUCH IS ESSENTIAL TO OUR DEVELOPMENT AND HEALTH

Touch is an important part of our emotional and mental health. This is especially true in the newborn to early childhood stages of life (0 to 8 years old), as this period is when the brain is undergoing its most rapid development. Dr. Linden explains:

“If you don’t get touch right after you’re born, all kinds of terrible things happen, and not just cognitive and emotional. Your immune system doesn’t develop properly, you digestive system tends to have a problem – there’s a whole rack of health problems that can develop if you don’t receive touch in early life.”

After early childhood, touch remains a vital part of our well-being. This is partly because touch plays a key role in human communication, and human beings are social creatures. Touch also has a multitude of physical and psychological effects – from reducing anxiety and lowering blood pressure, to enhancing physical intimacy and forging new bonds.

The takeaway: remember to accept and generously share the power of touch.

The Best Part Of Being In A Relationship

The best part of being in a good relationship is getting to call the person or to be with them and talk about all the crazy things that happened to you that day. In the end that’s what it’s about. It’s not always about the sex or about how good-looking they are. It’s about them listening to you talk for hours and hours about stupid things that may not matter to others but it matters to you. — Unknown

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These Unhealthy Food Cravings are a Sign of Mineral Deficiencies

Intense cravings for junk food seem to be an almost daily occurrence for many of us. Sometimes I even catch myself salivating, Pavlov style, when I sit down to watch TV or listen to music — activities I normally would have grabbed a bag of popcorn for during high school.

But after dealing with said cravings one learns they carry with them a caveat — Giving in to the cravings doesn’t make them go away, does it? Why is that?

Science now has the answer, stating that the reason we get cravings is that our body is in need of minerals that do come from junk food but would be much healthier from other, more whole, foods.

Hunger vs. Craving

Hunger and craving are two very different bodily reactions.

Hunger is a very utilitarian, necessary function of the body. It lets you know it’s time to eat because your body needs fuel.

Cravings, on the other hand, are a different beast entirely. They serve not so much to tell your body it needs fuel but to tell your body it needs specific chemicals, one of which is opioids. This is the reason we often crave foods high in sugar and fat; these foods release opioids into our bloodstream and provide us with feelings of pleasure and even mild euphoria in some cases.

And that’s why so many of us love…

Chocolate

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Chocolate is the most widely craved food in the world. It’s also actually linked to a nutrient many of us are deficient in: magnesium.

Some estimates state as many as 80 percent of Americans are lacking in this mineral. The symptoms of a magnesium deficiency? Anxiety, irritability and even insomnia.

This is why you might feel better and more relaxed after eating a chocolate bar. But did you know you can actually get magnesium from healthier sources?

Dark leafy greens, for example, are an excellent source of magnesium, as are seeds, nuts, fish, beans and molasses.

So what other commonly craved foods can be replaced with wholesome ones?

High-Sugar Foods

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Love fuzzy peaches? Me too, I’ll admit.

It’s no surprise that sugary foods are among the most highly craved in the world. Deficiencies in five nutrients could be to blame if you find yourself craving them. Chromium, sulfur and tryptophan are among them, the latter being a serotonin (happy brain chemical) regulator.

Due to the amount of mineral deficiencies a sugar craving might suggest, you probably want to look at revitalizing your diet to restore your body’s mineral balance.

Carb Cravings

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Another common type of craving comes up for things like pasta and bread. This can signal a deficiency in nitrogen, which can result in overall malnourishment. As such, if you find yourself craving lots of carbs, consider adding seafood to your diet, as fish contain a lot of the mineral.

Oily and Fatty Cravings

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If you crave foods like fries, cheese and the like with high oil and fat content, it could be indicative of a calcium deficiency. Consider instead drinking raw milk or eating turnip greens and broccoli.

Salty Food Cravings

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When you find yourself reaching for that bag of chips or popcorn (like I often do), reach instead for fish, nuts and seeds. These are healthy ways to gain the chloride or silicon your body is telling you it wants.

What You See In This Picture Reveals Something Interesting About Your Personality

You can tell a lot about your personality just be looking at this picture and analyzing the first picture you see…

When you first look at this photo you will see one thing very clearly. This first image that you see will tell you a lot about your subconscious personality. Take a look at this photo and pay attention to the very first image your mind processes. This image is a mirror into your subconscious mind. While you will notice one image first you will see with further inspection that there are in fact two ways of looking at this picture. What does the way you look at this picture say about you?

Take a look at this image – what is the first thing you see?

If you saw a crocodile first…

You are incredibly cautious. You aren’t the type of person that takes a lot of chances in life. This is why you see the crocodile first, because your senses are so attuned to noticing danger at the first sight of trouble. Your ability to see the crocodile is just a basic example of your alert and vigilant nature. You like to avoid problems if you can and you’ve become adept at noticing problems before they get too big to handle. You may need to relax and your friends may describe you as wound up at times.

If you saw a boat first…

Seeing the boat means that you have incredible attention to detail. The little boat is less obvious and easy to see compared to the big crocodile. Your attention to detail often displays itself in your creativity. Your creative and active mind is always thinking up new things. You are likely very artistic or appreciate art. In addition to being creative you’re also probably an intellectual person. When you have a productive way to channel your creative mind you are able to accomplish great things.